How do we learn to trust ourselves more? Do you get gobbled up by everyone else’s opinions, beliefs, ideas, and expectations? Do you find yourself losing confidence in your own voice, your own purpose by comparing yourself to others goals and accomplishments? What does self-trust mean?
Deepak Chopra uses a term he calls Self-referral instead of self-trust.
Being solid in your own beliefs instead of relying on others to gauge your own choices and beliefs. Here is his description from his website:
Self-referral is identifying with your inner self – the unchanging essence of your soul. In this state, you have an internal sense of joy regardless of what is happening around you because you aren’t identified with transient objects or events. In self-referral, you experience your true being, which doesn’t fear any challenge, has respect for all people and feels beneath no one. Fear drops away and there is no compulsion to control and no struggle for approval or external power. As you experience self-referral, you pierce the mask of illusion that creates separation and fragmentation and know that you are an inextricable part of the field of infinite intelligence.
To personalize this statement, think about a time when you have felt intimidated or overwhelmed when comparing yourself to others. With the flood of information, we now have access to on the Internet, it’s easy to fall into discouragement just looking at the amount of information out there. It sometimes appears almost everyone on the planet is a Coach and EFT practitioner! Our OBJECT REFERRING ego is always looking to compare and rank us in relationship to everyone else. It is impossible to not find someone else who is better, more experienced, or better at marketing themselves. This can really erode our confidence and self-trust. It can mask that true authentic voice with confusion and discouragement.
Embrace Your Uniqueness
To be effective in our own work, we need to stop comparing ourselves to the experiences, truths, and accomplishments of others. It’s important to keep focusing on your own unique purpose, skills. You have your own unique ways of presenting them to the world. Don’t let your inner critic of comparison convince you that you must follow someone else’s path to success. Following a proven path can be good, but only if you are aligned with it and it feels true for you also.