This is the last part of my three part series on Positive Affirmations. In part one, Why They Don’t Work! I talked about the three most common mistakes people make. In part two, 3 Secrets to Get Results! I discussed the remedies for overcoming those barriers that make affirmations work more consistently. In this last blog we will pull it all together to create a powerful process for correcting and locking in more positive and believable statements with EFT.
Opening up new brain pathways
“EFT allows us to literally create cognitive shifts, which exist observably as new neural pathways in the brain.” Dawson Church, PhD. The Science Behind EFT
If you aren’t familiar with EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), it is a simple yet powerful self-healing tool. Using a process similar to acupuncture or acupressure, you tap on certain energy meridians on your body while stating emotions and beliefs.
Most people think of EFT as a tool for clearing negative beliefs and emotions and it truly is a wonderful tool for that. But along with clearing out the negative, EFT is also a powerful tool for locking in the positive. When we use EFT (sometimes known as “tapping”) along with positive affirmations correctly, we are actually able to lock in new and positive pathways in our brain. Whenever you want to change an old belief, habit, or thought process you must have something to replace it with. Writing believable positive affirmations reframes for us a new perspective and new neural pathways can form in our brains.
Three step process for making positive affirmations believable:
Here is the three-step process for making affirmations believable and true for you so you can begin locking these into your subconscious in order to change your patterns of belief:
Step 1: “What is true for me…”
When I work with clients on clearing negative emotions, memories, or beliefs and we are at the point where they are feeling less charge around the item; it is time to move to the positive. If you try to begin positive affirmations too soon, you short circuit the process and you don’t really have the ability to think about or believe a positive statement.
The way I like to begin the positive round of EFT is with, “What is true for me is…”
In this way we can begin with what they actually can believe. For instance, let’s say they have a memory of their mother telling them they were stupid when they were four. They might say, “What is true for me is I was only a little girl and did not know any better.” “What is true is that I thought I had to believe her.” “What is true is that she was really unhappy and taking it out on me.”
Step 2: “Willing to consider…”
The next step is to take baby steps when moving into a new perspective. If she were to start saying affirmations like, “I’m really brilliant.” “I am actually very smart!” these might be too far to jump and not believable to her subconscious. Only you can gage this—only you know what feels believable to you.
For most people it is a process of building up your own confidence in belief. So the next step is to discover what you are willing to consider believing. It’s an opening up and allowing yourself to change your perspective. So this client might say, “I’m willing to consider that my mother was wrong.” “I’m willing to consider that I may not be stupid after all.” “I am willing to consider letting go of this.”
This step takes the pressure off of you and gives you space to get used to a new way of thinking about yourself.
Step 3: “I am…”
Once you have worked with the first two steps, then you can move into an actual affirmation that feels true and positive for you. Our sample client might be ready, after doing some work above, to say with confidence, “The truth is, I am quite intelligent.” “The truth is, I am clever and creative.” “The truth is, I really do forgive myself and my mother.”
Positive Affirmations that are aligned and congruent
In some cases, you may keep running into other negative memories, self-talk, or beliefs that pop up. You may need to clear those before you can move forward again. This is not a linear process. It is filled with forward and backward movements. You need to allow for the fluidity and just stay conscious of whether your affirmations feel aligned and internally congruent. They must carry a positive emotional charge and no negative charges. You should feel peaceful and grounded in them in order for them to be effective.
More EFT resources:
If you need help with the EFT process, don’t hesitate to contact me. Here are some further resources:
Related Article: EFT: 5 Reasons to Try It Now!
Related Article: EFT: 5 Reasons People Don’t Try It!
Related Article: Shh! Secret Tapping Points
Examples of people around the world using EFT: EFTuniverse.
Founder Gary Craig’s Official Site.
*Always consult a medical professional for help if you have a more serious medical or psychological condition.